Today we have a guest post, written by my dear friend and adopted little sister, Theodora Ashcraft. Enjoy! 🙂
The Hardest Thing To Give Away by Theodora Ashcraft
“It’s the hardest thing to give awayThe last thing on your mind todayIt always goes to those who don’t deserve…”
What is that scrap of song lyrics referring to? The answer is in the title of the song.
Forgiveness, by Matthew West. (For those of you who want to hear the song, I’ll be attaching a video to the end of this post.)
Forgiveness just might be the hardest thing to take to heart. Let’s be honest with ourselves here – if you’ve been hurt, the last thing you want to do is forgive the person. No, it’s more likely you want revenge. Or, at the very least, you want them to understand that they hurt you; you want them to apologize and, if they can, try to heal, fix, or compensate you for what they did/said wrong.
As the lyrics say, it’s the hardest thing to give. Some would say that it’s easier to cut off a finger or an arm than it is to forgive someone who hurt them. Forgiveness is the last thing on anyone’s mind, especially when your mind is saying, “But they don’tdeserve it!”
Consider Colossians, chapter three, verses twelve through fourteen:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”– Colossians 3:12-14
“Show me how to love the unlovable
Show me how to reach the unreachable
Help me now to do the impossible
I want to finally set it free
So show me how to see what Your mercy sees
Help me now to give what You gave to me
“It’s the opposite of how you feel
When the pain they caused is just too real
It takes everything you have just to say the word…”
“It flies in the face of all your prideIt moves away the mad insideIt’s always anger’s own worst enemyEven when the jury and the judgeSay you gotta right to hold a grudge
It’s the whisper in your ear saying ‘Set It Free’…”
But forgiveness is not defeat. Far from it.
“It’ll clear the bitterness awayIt can even set a prisoner freeThere is no end to what its power can do
So, let it go and be amazed
By what you see through eyes of graceThe prisoner that it really frees is you…”
Look at it this way. If you keep holding a grudge, and let the pain, the anger, and the feelings of betrayal fester… in the long run, it will hurt you even more. You lock yourself into a prison of bitterness. Trust me, I know; I’ve found myself inside of that prison, battling with the feelings of anger and betrayal, more times than I wish to count. Bitterness, as Danae Dobson once said, is like a cancer, eating away at our soul. The result is pure misery.
But when you wholeheartedly forgive those people, and tell them so, you are set free from that prison of bitterness! And while you may feel ashamed for a while. But in the end, you will feel much better – free from the burden of hate that you carried. It truly will set you free.